Stop Googling. Let’s Talk.
COLLEGE students tell me they know how to look someone in the eye and type on their phones at the same time, their split attention undetected. They say it’s a skill they mastered in middle school when they wanted to text in class without getting caught. Now they use it when they want to be […]Continue
Boys and School, Not Always a Marriage Made in Heaven
He’s got a lot of energy… He’s always moving… He’s quite a handful…. Wow, is this guy going to the Olympics, he’s quite competitive…. Does he ever sit down? These comments are code for: Your son is difficult to manage in the classroom. Or program… Or play-date. When teachers or coaches or other parents say […]Continue
Parents as Dictators
Try an experiment. Ask your kids how much control they feel they have over their lives. You may be surprised. Because our kids tend to be so privileged, we erroneously assume they feel in control of their lives. We mistakenly equate privilege with control. But the two are profoundly different. Privilege means having lots of […]Continue
Saying goodbye to campers… at the bus… at camp….
A Summer Camp Lesson: Good-bye, and Go Away, Thank You Very Much by JESSICA LAHEY in The Atlantic Three years ago, when he was eleven, my son Ben set down a very specific parental code of conduct […]Continue
Why is camp so good for kids?
I love my iPhone. I fondle it. I can’t seem to tolerate a nano-second without its electronic stimulation, so in lineups (waiting to pay for almost anything) or even the most minuscule of downtimes, I’m on my cherished device. Sound familiar? And we’re immigrants to the internet. Imagine how much more addictive it is for […]Continue
Worried about a disruptive child influencing your kid?
A powerful letter from teacher Amy Murray to the parents of her kindergarten students. Murray is the director of early childhood education at the Calgary French & International School and co-founder of #Kinderchat (www.kinderchat.net). The letter was originally published on her blog Miss Night’s Marbles: http://missnightmutters.com/2014/11/dear-parent-about-that-kid.html. Dear Parent: I know. You’re worried. Every day, your […]Continue
What’s a bad mother?
Two of my friends – in the last week – have called themselves bad mothers in conversation with me. This is so far from okay that it makes me feel like exploding. Which kinda reminds me of how I felt when I asked my now 29-year-old daughter if I was good mother to her. She […]Continue
Calming Down Kids Who Catastrophize
To Connect With Kids, Just Call ’em Like You See ’em by Dr. Chris Thurber As a parent, I sometimes find myself contradicting what my kids say. My 10-year-old son Sava, for example, has a tendency to catastrophize. When the LEGO structure he is building collapses, he’s likely to say something like, “I hate LEGOs. […]Continue
I admit it: I was a pushy mom… perhaps still am
I was in a conversation, in a country not Canada, far away from home, with a woman. I told her an anecdote (subject not important). She responded: “Oh, that would be great for the essays.” Huh? Of course that went way over my husband’s head (more on that later, and no, he is far from […]Continue
Sex at camp?
Sex is such an interesting subject. We mostly agree it’s a good thing. Procreation aside, as parents we tend to think of sex as a delicious way to express and extend our love and intimacy together. But how about our kids having sex? Scary thought. More complicated. Some of us would like to put them in […]Continue